The key that unlocks the unconditional love of the Father in you is forgiveness. Most of the work I do with clients during freedom appointments is rooted in forgiveness. Much of the forgiveness is rooted in past—even childhood—wounds. I have seen lives changed and countenances transform when a person works through the steps of forgiveness.
Jesus is quite clear on the importance of forgiveness. In Matthew 6:9–13, Jesus gives us what we commonly call The Lord’s Prayer. Verse 12 in the NLT says
“And forgive us our sins,
as we have forgiven those who sin against us.” Matthew 6:12
Forgiveness clears out the scar tissue that binds the heart and hinders love. Many times when I counsel those who have deep rooted wounds, I suggest that they use the phrase, “Lord, I choose to forgive.” Or “Lord, I want to forgive. Help me to forgive.”
Holy Spirit is right there with you offering His help to bring you to a place of forgiveness. Ask for His help rather than wait until you “feel” like you can forgive.
Your act of forgiveness is between you and the Lord. It does not necessarily include the person you choose to forgive. Unforgiveness holds that person captive in your heart. It binds your heart in unhealthy ways and can lead to bitterness and festering wounds.
Forgiving others sets YOU free. Forgive someone and you release them from the bondage YOU have wrapped around them. When you release them, you set yourself free to love unconditionally.
Forgive others so that in turn you are forgiven. After He gave us the Lord’s prayer, Jesus goes on to say,
“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” (Matthew 6:14–15)
Forgive others quickly. Do not let wounds fester in your heart. I call this the clean slate approach to life in the Spirit. Keep your self “forgiven” up and you will be able to love more freely.
The Holy Spirit is with you every step of the way. Yes, there are times when it takes multiple tries to fully let go of the wound caused by another person. Keep working at it. Soon, you will find yourself free of the sting. Wounds will heal. Your heart will open to express God’s love in greater measure.
As I wrote yesterday, God is love. We reflect Him when we love others. Forgive those who have hurt you and you will shine even brighter with the light of God’s love.